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		<title>Project Happily Ever After</title>
		<description><![CDATA[I’ve been following Alisa Bowman’s blog, www.projecthappilyeverafter.com, for several months. A couple who came to see me at a very low point in their marriage told me about the site. Between our first and second sessions, they &#8220;googled&#8221; their problem and Project Happily Ever After appeared in the search. After exploring the site, their comment [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Discouraging Honesty</title>
		<description><![CDATA[Two people in the news this past week were fired from their jobs for being honest—and human. One was a journalist, the other a Department of Agriculture official in Georgia. Both were honest and open in their public comments with good intentions and clear purpose. The journalist was a twenty year CNN veteran. She made [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://communicationstyles.us/blog/discouraging-honesty/</link>
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		<title>Dangerous Interpretations</title>
		<description><![CDATA[I listened to part of Weekend Edition this past Sunday on NPR and heard the letters-to-the-editor segment. Some of the letters referenced a story last weekend about PTSD in military personnel. The letters criticized someone interviewed who used the term, &#8220;former veterans.&#8221; On one hand, the term &#8220;former veterans&#8221; can be somewhat amusing, a slip [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://communicationstyles.us/blog/dangerous-interpretation/</link>
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		<title>Name Calling</title>
		<description><![CDATA[What child hasn’t been scolded for calling someone names? They are admonished: That’s not nice. . . . We don’t call others names. . . . Tell him you’re sorry for calling him names. We use these and other familiar phrases to try to teach our children how to behave properly and respectfully in a [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://communicationstyles.us/blog/name-calling/</link>
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		<title>The Devil’s Advocate</title>
		<description><![CDATA[&#8220;Look at it this way…,&#8221; or &#8220;There are other possibilities…,&#8221; or &#8220;Look at it from the other side…&#8221; Those with a strong logical component to their communication style often play the devil’s advocate. This technique helps them analyze a situation, discover the truth, and solve problems. Their intentions are good and their willingness to help [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Let’s Use Normal Language with Kids</title>
		<description><![CDATA[Often, we use words like depression, bi-polar, panic attack, generalized anxiety disorder, and more to describe normal reactions kids have to life circumstances. This can be dangerous and gives kids the wrong message about life and our ordinary human experience in response to adversity. For example, a teenager breaks up with her girl friend and [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://communicationstyles.us/blog/let%e2%80%99s-use-normal-language-with-kids/</link>
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		<title>Two Stories—Two Pictures</title>
		<description><![CDATA[Ned is a very active seven year old boy—tireless and constantly in motion. His continuous imaginative play is captivating, both to himself and to anyone watching him. Within a minute of seeing a stick and a piece of crumpled up paper, for example, he has combined them with other objects to form a spaceship that [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://communicationstyles.us/blog/two-stories%e2%80%94two-pictures/</link>
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		<title>Men Have Feelings</title>
		<description><![CDATA[I don’t like to promote (directly or indirectly) the stereotypes in the popular culture about how men and women communicate differently. I approach communication style differences based on the individual, not the sex. Because I have addressed this in other posts, I won’t get into it here, except to say that looking at the interpersonal/intrapersonal [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://communicationstyles.us/blog/men-have-feelings/</link>
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		<title>The Five Percent Rule</title>
		<description><![CDATA[In intimate relationships we come to know the other in great detail—how they think, feel, what they believe, their quirks, preferences, etc. Knowing and being known is important to our sense of well being. The familiarity implies security. The relationships of couples demonstrate this like no other. The special bond of living together and observing [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://communicationstyles.us/blog/the-five-percent-rule/</link>
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		<title>Real Leadership</title>
		<description><![CDATA[I just finished reading How by Dov Seidman, an inspiring book about creating values driven organizations that promote team work, mutual accountability, and individual leadership. It is possible to do this; Seidman includes lots of great examples of organizations of every size. This is particularly inspiring when put against news—and we’ve all heard it—of a [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://communicationstyles.us/blog/real-leadership/</link>
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